On Gay Marriage
I remember the time when someone I follow here on tumblr posted about the futility of marriage for the lgbt. I went anon and messaged him my rebuttal. I didn’t have the confidence before hence the hiding behind a gray icon. I was right and still is that’s why I’m posting it here and because of the Tom Bridegroom video.
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Someone I follow: IF YOU WANT TO BE WITH SOMEONE, JUST FUCKING BE WITH SOMEONE.
Sometimes, I really don’t understand why marriage is such a big deal. We go out of our way to detest the church and doctrines and all that for condemning the LGBT community, and yet we clamor for their very ACCEPTANCE when it comes to marriage equality? It’s like saying FUCK YOU, BUT PLEASE LOVE ME.
I say FUCK marriage in general. I don’t see why someone can’t just COMMIT to another person without some guy/girl in a robe reciting a speech from an old book.
I was raised a Catholic, and I’ve attended Catholic schools all my life, but I still don’t see the point of marriage. Don’t burn me at the stake for it. I’m really just ticked off about blah this and blah that about LGBT marriage when it shouldn’t even matter if you really love someone.
What’s marriage nowadays but a wedding anyway?
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I: Your view on gay marriage is fucked up. The thing that you don’t realize is that being married entails your partner with health insurance and other benefits just like the straight cohorts. I’d say, it is not a matter of Church’s acceptance but rather of practicality and most of all equality. Marriage is not just a commitment to the church. It’s also commitment to your partner and the law that you will be there with each other, especially if one is in need of help.
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SIF: I didn’t know health insurance was a big deal, either. People in this country don’t talk about it.
Like I said, I don’t see why one can’t just commit without some piece of paper or whatever for proof. Why do we, whether under the law or the eyes of God, have to prove our commitment?
I stand by my opinion that marriage in general should just be dissolved. If it’s creating so much inequality, then just abolish it. Reduce it to what it really is nowadays - a pretty little ceremony.
Why are you anonymous? If your goal is to educate me on my skewed notions, you should do so personally.
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I: A plethora of things is not talked in this country yet it does not mean they are not important. Maybe to you who seems well off in life, it is easy to dismiss that health insurance and other related things are not relevant. Anyway,if you think marriage is shitty in general, then you should just have said it so. Don’t put into context that gay marriage is about the LGBT community trying to gain acceptance from fuck ups. If you detest marriage so much, hate the church for establishing it but not the ones who believe that gay marriage and equality are important.
I made my case and stood up for what I think is right. They are a lot of ignorant and misinformed persons about the LGBT community, even within the community. It is essential that we exchange ideas. Talk about issues and find a way to settle any misunderstanding. Everyday we are learning and that what matters here.
The reason of doing this is that I find a handful of people who are fighting for LGBT rights here in Philippines. Most LGBT issues, if not all, are still taboo. The big pink elephant must be noticed. It is the only way to have equality.
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He, later, deleted all the posts related to this conversation.
Right now, I’m leaning on the side where I’m losing hope that Philippines will never give equal rights for its lgbt citizens.
