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I Want To Know You by Ryan O’Connell

I want to know you. You seem like someone worth knowing. Every day I feel like I’m surrounded by people with hard edges and sour faces but I get the sense that you’re different. Too often people seem to think that they have the answers to everything. Their faces are trapped in permascowls and they can’t be bothered with anything besides their own narcissism. You aren’t like that. You still ask questions. You’re still looking for the answers.

People with kind hearts make me feel dirty. Like I need to give my personality a bath or something. Rub it clean of my neuroses and judgments. But that’s a good thing. When someone inspires you to take a long hard look at yourself and question all of your bad habits, they’re someone worth keeping around. It’s all about finding that person who’s able to hold up a mirror to your life and cause you to reevaluate the noise. It’s all about wanting to be a better man.

I know you’ll surprise me. I know you’ll take a right turn when I’m convinced you’ll take a left. All of this may seem arbitrary (why does it even matter if you take a right instead of a left?) but it provides me with a giant sense of relief. Do you know what it feels like to go through life rarely being surprised? The person who you think is going to hurt you ends up leaving you alone at three in the morning. The person who will never understand your jokes or passions turns out to be a stranger forever. You sleep with them, go out to dinners, and even run away to a bed and breakfast on a long weekend, all in hopes that they’ll start to make sense to you one day. But they never do. They just get more and more foreign each day. Experiences don’t always breed intimacy. Sometimes they just make the distance more apparent.

I want to know how your weekend was (I never want to know these types of things but you’re the exception to all my rules) and I want to know how you got that scar on your knee (biking accident when you were twelve? Tell me more! This story is more riveting than The Hunger Games!) and I want to know about your mom and dad (Are they assholes? No matter! We’ll start our own family!) I want to protect you. I want to preserve your innocence and drink it up for myself. You learn from me and I’ll learn from you. Deal?

You’ll open me up like an orange, leaving a mess of pulp and sticky peels everywhere. Certain parts of my personality will be extracted and I’ll find myself feeling stuff I never knew was possible. It’s strange to think how many things we’re capable of without really knowing it until we have a proper catalyst — something or someone to bring it to the surface. Dig, dig, dig. No, you might need to dig a little deeper. I have a lot of crap sticking on top of the good stuff.

In order for all of this to work though, you have to let me know you. You have to let me cut you open and trust that I won’t accidentally hit a nerve. You have to accept me for my shortcomings and understand that you’re a better person than I am. I’m a little rotten. Please don’t let that deter you though. Because when I look at you, I see someone who makes sense. I see an anomaly — someone who’s untouched by all of the modern inventions and hang ups. I see someone I want to know.

(Source: thoughtcatalog.com)

❝ When people go through true #dark periods, it’s usually kept a secret. People who complain about being sad all the time might very well be telling the truth but it’s the ones who keep things under wraps that you really have to watch out for. If people aren’t being open about their feelings, it usually means that it extends beyond the circumstantial and goes much deeper. They feel powerless and aren’t sure even why they’re feeling down, so they keep it to themselves. Suffering in quiet takes its toll on you. If you stop offering the stupid moisturizer to your friends and get honest about things, you’ll be making your first step towards being someone who doesn’t have to pretend about being happy. They can just be… happy! ❞
- How To Trick People You’re Not A Mess
Ryan O’Connell 

(Source: thoughtcatalog.com)

Why It’s Good To Let Yourself Go In Front Of Your Significant Other by Ryan O’Connell

I can’t wait until I can be disgusting with you. Don’t get me wrong, the honeymoon period is amazing. It feels like every day is a beautiful new discovery and you’re on D R U G S but it’s also exhausting. It’s exhausting because you’re working your ass off to be the most charming and sexy version of yourself. You make them believe that you’re someone who just is casually flawless and put together every day when, in reality, you’re putting yourself under a magnifying glass. When you go out to dinner, you don’t even order what you want because it could potentially be messy to eat or give you stomach issues. Even your order isn’t real! It’s what your perfect self would order. And we think it’s what your new boyfriend or girlfriend would want from you, like they give a crap what you order, but the pressure is actually all coming from you. You’re doing this yourself. You’re the one who’s putting yourself through version 2.0 torture.

On a certain level, it’s fun to push yourself towards this idea of excellence. I don’t care how demeaning it might sound, it’s nice to want to look good for somebody else. I usually try to look cute every day for my own personal satisfaction but in the beginning of a new relationship, I try to up my face game by, like, I don’t know, putting wax in my hair and running my hands through it? Wearing a chic ensemble? Guys only have so much they can do to transform themselves from a Danny Devito to a Ryan Gosling. I can’t imagine though the pressure and the amount of money girls spend to impress a new significant other.

In a way, it sounds sad and pathetic that we feel the need to alter ourselves in order to impress a new love. In the beginning though, it feels so precarious, like someone would leave you if you had a bad hair day, but ultimately I don’t think it’s actually about changing yourself. Whoever you end up in a relationship with should inspire you to be the best version of yourself. They’re basically meant to bring you back to life. You’ve gone from feeling complete apathy to passion. It’s supposed to be empowering.

That being said, I can’t wait until I can feel empowered when I look like Danny Devito in front of you. The Ryan Gosling thing was cute and made me feel good about myself but now it’s time to deflate for a bit. It’s time to let my face return to its semi-haggard state because when you finally let your significant other see all of you, it means so much for the relationship. It means that there’s a level of trust being established and you’re no longer being ruled by your insecurities. It’s going to take a lot more than a casual fart on a Sunday morning to ruin the relationship. You’ve settled in, you feel like you’ve got ‘em, and they’re not going anywhere. You’re getting comfortable now.

I can’t wait until you see my cry face. It’s super ugly. Crying for the first time in a new relationship is a milestone because it means you care enough about them to let things get bad for a second. I see crying as a positive thing. I don’t trust relationships that are good 24/7 because it usually means they lack a certain level of depth or passion. I don’t love you until you make me cry, until you see me vomit, until I fart in your face and refuse to feel weird about it. To me, love doesn’t come with the first “I love you.” It comes with the first fart so can we just fast forward a few months and just be there already? Thanks.

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I always believed that love must be effortless. It’s not about the roses, chocolates and fancy meals but the annoying sneeze sound you make, the drooling when you sleep and all the other flaws and insecurities.

(Source: thoughtcatalog.com)

Things You Should Know Before You Sleep With Me

Me: Hey. You want to sleep with me, right?
Person I’m About To Sleep With: Yeah, I think I do.
Me: Oh good. I mean, I thought so. I was getting that vibe but you never know. I’ve been wrong before.
Person I’m About To Sleep With: Yeah, I definitely want to have intercourse with you. I look at your face/body and think to myself, “I will sleep with that. I want to see that naked.”
Me: OMG, you’re making me blush. Okay, well before we do that, shouldn’t we talk a little beforehand? Like isn’t there some stuff you would like to know before we hook up?
Person I’m About To Sleep With: Like what?
Me: Well, when I was five, my dad used to hit me…JK! Oh my god, can you imagine if I just pulled that on you?!!
Person I’m About To Sleep With: People do that though. All the time!
Me: I know! I’m not that kind of girl. We don’t talk about abuse until at least the third sexual encounter. WHO DO YOU THINK I AM?
Person I’m About To Sleep With: Totally. Can I have sex with you now?
Me: Hold your horses, buddy. I gotta tell you some stuff before we get down to business.
Person I’m About To Sleep With: Okay. Shoot.
Me: You’re about to do crazy intimate things to my body. I thought you would like to know that having sex with you will put me in a good mood for a few days, regardless of whether or not it was actually good. You should also know that I’ll wonder if you could be my boyfriend. Don’t be scared! I’m pretty sure this is normal. Your mind plays tricks on you at first. You think for a glimmer of a moment that you could love this person who was inside of you the week before. I’ll hang out with you a few times after to see if I like you with your clothes on. Chances are I won’t and I’ll push you away, or you’ll push me away, and that will be the end of that. You’ll fade away, I’ll fade away, see you never. (This is what being a grown up is all about, I’m convinced. Being intimate with someone in the most shallow of ways and learning to be okay with it.) I will play some soft fuzzy music when we kiss and lie on my back and lie my stomach and wonder when it’ll all be over or wish it would never end. I feel things more than the average person so you’ll have some sort of significance the second you kiss me. I won’t forget you even if I barely remember you. Sounds like a blast, right? I’m learning how to make things not matter as much though. Come over and teach me. I think I’m ready now. I think you know everything you’re supposed to know.
Person I’m About To Know: If you think all of this is going to scare me away, I have one thing to say to you.
Me: What’s that?
Person I’m About To Sleep With: Get naked.
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I wish that was the response…

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Especially you Ryan O’Connell.